♫ Take more classes/workshops with a Good teacher. A teacher who leads with a beautiful frame and who can teach you how to use it well (there are many good ones to choose from, teachers and frames/holds) while he is using the whole body and core to lead the partner and not his "strength" by moving the hands too much and focusing most of his energy in that.
Ladies who say they don't mind him holding her there, you need more classes too.
♫ The amount of tension of that frame, the better you get the lower is it's sensitivity, yet always present, reaching almost a mind reading energy flow moving through the frame and the whole body.
♫ The hands are newer too soft and spaghetti like, or too strong like a wrestling match. Be gentle to your partner and let your frames breath and be also flexible in it's position.
♫ Ladies be confident and tell your partner if he is holding you too tight, or if he holds you in these 2 areas or anywhere else where it feels uncomfortable.
♫ Gentleman if you wish to make the lady move, "move yourself" first and not the frame.
♫ If you ever saw a beautiful painting in a museum, did you ever see the frame and how much details is put into into it?
The purpose of that beautiful frame around the canvas is to show the glory of that amazing painting.
There is a lot.. for me a life time of work and knowledge to constantly improve the frame and the dances we do, but we gotta start from our selves and the elementary foundation of it all.
I said it before and i will say it again
"Basics are the first thing we learn, and the last thing we master"
Nemanja Sonero – mit Irusya Tysyachnik.